The wisdom of being a parent needs to be learned, and raising children is an opportunity for parents to achieve self-cultivation. The author of this book deeply summarizes the "file package" theory from the original emotional therapy, and believes that if the trauma caused by wrong parenting methods and the negative emotions experienced during the growth process are not effectively released, cleared and resolved, the emotional memory it produces will form a "file package" like a computer program, which will run automatically whenever a similar situation is encountered. The "cause" of parent-child problems mostly comes from the "file package" of parents in their early years. This subtle influence, if not identified and adjusted, will continue to be passed on to the next generation. Therefore, if parents want their children to achieve fundamental changes, they must first start by changing their own "file packages." The whole book starts from parents' awakening, correcting themselves, respecting their children, and improving their hearts.
为人父母的智慧是需要学习的，养育孩子是父母实现自我修行的契机。本书作者从原创的情志疗法深入归纳出“文件包”理论，认为错误的教养方式造成的创伤、成长过程中经历的负面情绪，如果得不到有效地释放、清除和化解，它所产生的情绪记忆就会形成犹如电脑程序一样的“文件包”，只要遇到类似情形就会自动运行。亲子问题中的“因”，大都源自父母早年的“文件包”，这种潜移默化的影响，若不加以识别和调整，还会在下一代中继续沿袭。因此，要想孩子获得根本的改变，父母要先从改变自己的“文件包”开始。全书从父母觉醒、修正自身、尊重孩子、提升心
为人父母的智慧是需要学习的，养育孩子是父母实现自我修行的契机。本书作者从原创的情志疗法深入归纳出“文件包”理论，认为错误的教养方式造成的创伤、成长过程中经历的负面情绪，如果得不到有效地释放、清除和化解，它所产生的情绪记忆就会形成犹如电脑程序一样的“文件包”，只要遇到类似情形就会自动运行。亲子问题中的“因”，大都源自父母早年的“文件包”，这种潜移默化的影响，若不加以识别和调整，还会在下一代中继续沿袭。因此，要想孩子获得根本的改变，父母要先从改变自己的“文件包”开始。全书从父母觉醒、修正自身、尊重孩子、提升心
