This book teaches all parents how to raise children correctly. It truly helps parents stop yelling uselessly and hurtfully, and to stop controlling and oppressive parenting, building a comprehensive and deep cooperative relationship with their children. The author replaces commands with trust and punishment with choices. Drawing on neuroscience, child psychology, and mindfulness training, the author dissects the physiological and psychological mechanisms behind parental "control and oppression" in high-pressure parenting situations and proposes solutions. It allows children to learn self-soothing and problem-solving skills within a stable emotional environment—because children treated gently will treat the world gently. In short, when parents learn to let go, children can become self-disciplined.
本书是一本教会所有父母正确养育孩子的书。真正帮助父母停止无用而伤人的吼叫，停止控制型养育和打压式养育，与孩子建立全面而深度的合作关系。在书中作者用信任代替命令，用选择代替惩罚。作者从神经科学、儿童心理学与正念训练出发，拆解父母在育儿高压场景下“控制和打压”背后的生理与心理机制，并提出解决办法。让孩子在稳定的情绪容器里，习得自我安抚与解决问题的能力——因为被温柔对待的孩子，才会对世界温柔以待。总之，父母学会放手，孩子才能自律。
本书是一本教会所有父母正确养育孩子的书。真正帮助父母停止无用而伤人的吼叫，停止控制型养育和打压式养育，与孩子建立全面而深度的合作关系。在书中作者用信任代替命令，用选择代替惩罚。作者从神经科学、儿童心理学与正念训练出发，拆解父母在育儿高压场景下“控制和打压”背后的生理与心理机制，并提出解决办法。让孩子在稳定的情绪容器里，习得自我安抚与解决问题的能力——因为被温柔对待的孩子，才会对世界温柔以待。总之，父母学会放手，孩子才能自律。
